When Marriage Hurts Podcast - Help for Christian Women in Painful Marriages, Emotional Abuse in Marriage, Trauma in Marriage
Are you tired of trying to figure out this thing called marriage? Do your attempts to seek Godly counsel for your marriage leave you feeling confused and frustrated? Have you attended marriage seminars and joined prayer lines but your marriage doesn’t seem to improve? Do you feel trapped and alone in your marriage and no one seems to understand the pain you experience? Does your marriage look spotless - even perfect - on the outside but on the inside you know you are barely hanging on by a thread? Are you afraid of confiding in someone because you know they would never believe the experiences you’ve had in marriage? Has your marriage become the source of your greatest pain? Or even though you hate to admit it but you are at your happiest and most at peace when your husband isn’t around? Hey Sis, my name is Ola Davies, Daughter of the Most High God, mom to two beautiful children and a lover of all things marriage. I remember what it felt like to give my marriage my all but the more I tried the more my efforts fell flat. I followed all the church rules and tried to build my home like the proverbial wise woman but no matter how hard I tried, I always fell short. Counselling didn’t seem to help. My marriage was falling apart, my life was falling apart, I was dying on the inside and no matter how loudly my heart screamed, no one seemed to hear my cry for help. I sank into a deep depression and lost the desire to live. Waking up every morning became a painful experience. I’d pray to sleep and never wake up, convinced my life was worthless and of no use to anyone. Then I thought about my children and what would become of them. I didn’t want to cheat them out of having a healthy loving mother. I felt such a sense of responsibility towards them considering they were miracle babies whom I conceived after battling with infertility. The thought of my 6 month-old baby who was still breast-fed, growing up without any memories of me saddened me. I cried to God for strength to live one day at a time and I realized he was right by me the whole time. Even when I thought he was distant, he was near. God showed me my life mattered to him more than my marriage. He told me I would rise beyond this, I would be a mother to my children and my life still had meaning and purpose. That marked the beginning of my healing journey. I’m on that path of healing and restoration and instead of despair, I have a new zest for life. My mission is to guide you to that place of light and truth in Christ so you too can begin your healing journey; so you can live the best life God has planned for you. In this podcast, we will be exposing the religious lies that the enemy uses to make our marriages a place of pain and confusion and we will also be discovering the truth in Christ that sets us free. I’d love to share with you how Jesus set me free from hopelessness and despair.. He is more than willing to do the same for you too; willing to take that heavy burden off your shoulders. Grab yourself a cup of tea, get in your most comfy pyjamas and let’s have some fun! “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavily burdened [by religious rituals that provide no peace], and I will give you rest [refreshing your souls with salvation] - Matt 11:28 Let’s connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts ***For 1-on-1 coaching session, book an appointment at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360
Episodes
Monday Sep 16, 2024
90\\ Ways In Which An Abusive Husband Sabotages You
Monday Sep 16, 2024
Monday Sep 16, 2024
Hey Sis,
The covert ways in which an abuser sabotages their victim's chances of success and happiness are so subtle that they often go unnoticed. They also go unnoticed because the abuser does it in such a manner that makes it seem like there was no malicious intent involved, so innocently. This contributes to the frustration and loneliness of the victim who has a hard time explaining this to people outside the marriage.
I share a few examples of mine on this episode.
Love,
Ola
***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****
Let’s connect!
Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Email: oladavies360@gmail.com
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts
Monday Sep 09, 2024
89\\ Why Do I Feel Responsible For Helping My Abusive Husband?
Monday Sep 09, 2024
Monday Sep 09, 2024
Hey Sis,
Even when it becomes clear that we are being abused in covert ways, there is a sense of responsibility that we can feel towards fixing the problem, fixing the abusive spouse. Why do we feel this sense of responsibility? Why does protecting ourselves from harm feel so bad and selfish? Why does it seem like our abusive husband is the real victim? I share some insights in this episode that take a look at how the groundwork for these types of relationships get laid.
Love,
Ola
***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****
Let’s connect!
Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Email: oladavies360@gmail.com
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts
Monday Sep 02, 2024
88\\ Why Your Godly Husband Treats You Badly
Monday Sep 02, 2024
Monday Sep 02, 2024
Hey Sis,
Have you ever wondered why some Christian men treat their wives terribly? I wondered about this myself as I struggled to understand why the man I married was the perfect Christian man to others yet he treated me horribly. I share some insights from the scriptures about why this happens.
Love,
Ola
***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****
Let’s connect!
Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Email: oladavies360@gmail.com
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts
Monday Aug 26, 2024
87\\ Health Issues After Separation and Divorce
Monday Aug 26, 2024
Monday Aug 26, 2024
Hey Sis,
This episode talks about health issues that sometimes arise after leaving an abusive marriage and I share a bit of my experience.
Love,
Ola
***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****
Let’s connect!
Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Email: oladavies360@gmail.com
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts
Monday Aug 19, 2024
86\\ What Will People Say If You Leave The Marriage?
Monday Aug 19, 2024
Monday Aug 19, 2024
Hey Sis,
This episode addresses one of the common concerns women have about leaving an emotionally abusive marriage - what people will say and how other people will receive the news.
Love,
Ola
***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****
Let’s connect!
Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts
Monday Aug 12, 2024
85\\ How Do I Cope With My Marriage?
Monday Aug 12, 2024
Monday Aug 12, 2024
Hey Sis,
In this episode, I address one of the most common questions I get from women which is "How do I cope with my marriage". I give vital clues on how to approach this question in other to find not just the answers you want but the answers you need.
Love,
Ola
***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****
Let’s connect!
Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts
Monday Aug 05, 2024
84\\ When There Is A Generational Pattern of Abuse
Monday Aug 05, 2024
Monday Aug 05, 2024
Hey Sis,
In this episode, I answer questions like:
-What if women in my family have bad marriages
-Is it a generational curse?
-What if my husband needs my help to break a pattern of abuse in his family?
- How can I help him break the pattern of abuse?
Be blessed as you listen.
Ola
***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****
Let’s connect!
Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts
Monday Jul 29, 2024
83\\ House Chores As A Tool of Abuse
Monday Jul 29, 2024
Monday Jul 29, 2024
Hey Sis,
In this episode, I explore a less talked about tool of abuse that goes unnoticed - housekeeping. I share a bit of my experience and how this form of abuse negatively impacts a woman's well-being.
***One-on-One coaching session slots now open. You can book a clarity session at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360 ****
Be blessed as you listen.
Ola
Let’s connect!
Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts
Monday Jul 22, 2024
Monday Jul 15, 2024