When Marriage Hurts Podcast - Help for Christian Women in Painful Marriages, Emotional Abuse in Marriage, Trauma in Marriage

Are you tired of trying to figure out this thing called marriage? Do your attempts to seek Godly counsel for your marriage leave you feeling confused and frustrated? Have you attended marriage seminars and joined prayer lines but your marriage doesn’t seem to improve? Do you feel trapped and alone in your marriage and no one seems to understand the pain you experience? Does your marriage look spotless - even perfect - on the outside but on the inside you know you are barely hanging on by a thread? Are you afraid of confiding in someone because you know they would never believe the experiences you’ve had in marriage? Has your marriage become the source of your greatest pain? Or even though you hate to admit it but you are at your happiest and most at peace when your husband isn’t around? Hey Sis, my name is Ola Davies, Daughter of the Most High God, mom to two beautiful children and a lover of all things marriage. I remember what it felt like to give my marriage my all but the more I tried the more my efforts fell flat. I followed all the church rules and tried to build my home like the proverbial wise woman but no matter how hard I tried, I always fell short. Counselling didn’t seem to help. My marriage was falling apart, my life was falling apart, I was dying on the inside and no matter how loudly my heart screamed, no one seemed to hear my cry for help. I sank into a deep depression and lost the desire to live. Waking up every morning became a painful experience. I’d pray to sleep and never wake up, convinced my life was worthless and of no use to anyone. Then I thought about my children and what would become of them. I didn’t want to cheat them out of having a healthy loving mother. I felt such a sense of responsibility towards them considering they were miracle babies whom I conceived after battling with infertility. The thought of my 6 month-old baby who was still breast-fed, growing up without any memories of me saddened me. I cried to God for strength to live one day at a time and I realized he was right by me the whole time. Even when I thought he was distant, he was near. God showed me my life mattered to him more than my marriage. He told me I would rise beyond this, I would be a mother to my children and my life still had meaning and purpose. That marked the beginning of my healing journey. I’m on that path of healing and restoration and instead of despair, I have a new zest for life. My mission is to guide you to that place of light and truth in Christ so you too can begin your healing journey; so you can live the best life God has planned for you. In this podcast, we will be exposing the religious lies that the enemy uses to make our marriages a place of pain and confusion and we will also be discovering the truth in Christ that sets us free. I’d love to share with you how Jesus set me free from hopelessness and despair.. He is more than willing to do the same for you too; willing to take that heavy burden off your shoulders. Grab yourself a cup of tea, get in your most comfy pyjamas and let’s have some fun! “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavily burdened [by religious rituals that provide no peace], and I will give you rest [refreshing your souls with salvation] - Matt 11:28 Let’s connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts ***For 1-on-1 coaching session, book an appointment at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360

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Episodes

Monday Aug 22, 2022

31\\ Are You Strong Enough? Overcoming Abuse

Monday Aug 22, 2022

Monday Aug 15, 2022

30\\ Why Praying For Your Abusive Husband To Change Is Actually Ungodly

Monday Aug 15, 2022

Monday Aug 08, 2022

29\\ Why We Marry Abusive Men

Monday Aug 08, 2022

Hi Sis!
Episode 29 is where I talk about factors I have been able to identify as contributing to the decision to marry someone whom unknown to us was abusive. When the scales comes off our eyes and we start to see our prince charming was no where near charming and we have been deceived, we wonder why we never saw it coming.
This episode helps answer some of those questions.

With Love,
Ola
Let’s connect!
Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Monday Aug 01, 2022

28\\ Why Emotional Abuse Makes You Feel Crazy

Monday Aug 01, 2022

Hey Sis!
One of the common signs of emotional abuse in the victim is an overall feeling of confusion and sometimes feeling just plain crazy. Why does abuse have this effect? That's what I talk about on this episode.

With Love,
Ola
Let’s connect!
Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Monday Jul 25, 2022

27\\ What Keeps You Stuck In An Abusive Marriage (And How To Get Unstuck)

Monday Jul 25, 2022

Hi Sis,
On today's show, I talk about one lingering thought that made it difficult for me to leave my abusive marriage and how I overcame that thought.

Love,
Ola
Let’s connect!
Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Monday Jul 18, 2022

26\\ How To Know If Your Abusive Husband Is Truly Repentant

Monday Jul 18, 2022

Hey sis!
In this episode I give you 3 keys to decode and know if those apologies are a true sign of repentance or just more deception to keep you stuck in a painful marriage.

With love!
Ola

Let’s connect!
Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Monday Jul 11, 2022

25\\ Why God Hates Emotional Abuse

Monday Jul 11, 2022

Hey Sis!
So in this episode, I talk about why God hates emotional abuse and how abuse robs us of the gifts of God.
- How emotional abuse does so much harm
- It's not just about your spouse treating you badly, it's bigger than that
-What abuse has to do with the devil
- It's a battle of the thrones

With love!
Ola

Let’s connect!
Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Monday Jul 04, 2022

24\\ How To Stay Well In An Abusive Marriage - When Leaving Is Not An Option

Monday Jul 04, 2022

Hi Sis!
I know staying in an abusive marriage isn't healthy in the long term but there are times when an immediate exit isn't the best option even for the abused. How can an abused spouse "stay well" pending when they are able to exit safely?
This episode discusses exactly that.
Note: The tips shared on this episode is strictly for women who are not in physically violent relationships. If your spouse is physically violent, seek immediate help at your local domestic violence shelter/center.

Let’s connect!
Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Monday Jun 27, 2022

23\\ Is My Marriage Destructive Or Just Disappointing?

Monday Jun 27, 2022

Hi sis!
Today we are pointing out differences between a disappointing marriage and one that is just outright destructive.
According to Leslie Vernick, author of "The Emotionally Destructive Marriage", there are three components that are vital in a healthy adult relationship and when these three are lacking, the marriage is a destructive one.
Today's episode takes a good look at these three components.
Be blessed as you listen,
Ola.

Let’s connect!
Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts
Book featured on today's episode: The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick

Monday Jun 20, 2022

22\\ Is Emotional Abuse Worse Than Physical Abuse?

Monday Jun 20, 2022

Hi Sis!
This episode is explores how emotional abuse differs from physical but can have more damaging and long-lasting effects. I also share my personal experience with emotional abuse and physical health.
- Can emotional abuse lead to physical abuse?
- Does emotional abuse manifest physically in the body?
- Are the effects of emotional abuse limited only to mental sickness?
- Is there any scientific evidence that emotional abuse can lead to physical diseases?
Have an insightful time listening.
Love,
Ola.

Let’s connect!
Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts