When Marriage Hurts Podcast - Help for Christian Women in Painful Marriages, Emotional Abuse in Marriage, Trauma in Marriage

Are you tired of trying to figure out this thing called marriage? Do your attempts to seek Godly counsel for your marriage leave you feeling confused and frustrated? Have you attended marriage seminars and joined prayer lines but your marriage doesn’t seem to improve? Do you feel trapped and alone in your marriage and no one seems to understand the pain you experience? Does your marriage look spotless - even perfect - on the outside but on the inside you know you are barely hanging on by a thread? Are you afraid of confiding in someone because you know they would never believe the experiences you’ve had in marriage? Has your marriage become the source of your greatest pain? Or even though you hate to admit it but you are at your happiest and most at peace when your husband isn’t around? Hey Sis, my name is Ola Davies, Daughter of the Most High God, mom to two beautiful children and a lover of all things marriage. I remember what it felt like to give my marriage my all but the more I tried the more my efforts fell flat. I followed all the church rules and tried to build my home like the proverbial wise woman but no matter how hard I tried, I always fell short. Counselling didn’t seem to help. My marriage was falling apart, my life was falling apart, I was dying on the inside and no matter how loudly my heart screamed, no one seemed to hear my cry for help. I sank into a deep depression and lost the desire to live. Waking up every morning became a painful experience. I’d pray to sleep and never wake up, convinced my life was worthless and of no use to anyone. Then I thought about my children and what would become of them. I didn’t want to cheat them out of having a healthy loving mother. I felt such a sense of responsibility towards them considering they were miracle babies whom I conceived after battling with infertility. The thought of my 6 month-old baby who was still breast-fed, growing up without any memories of me saddened me. I cried to God for strength to live one day at a time and I realized he was right by me the whole time. Even when I thought he was distant, he was near. God showed me my life mattered to him more than my marriage. He told me I would rise beyond this, I would be a mother to my children and my life still had meaning and purpose. That marked the beginning of my healing journey. I’m on that path of healing and restoration and instead of despair, I have a new zest for life. My mission is to guide you to that place of light and truth in Christ so you too can begin your healing journey; so you can live the best life God has planned for you. In this podcast, we will be exposing the religious lies that the enemy uses to make our marriages a place of pain and confusion and we will also be discovering the truth in Christ that sets us free. I’d love to share with you how Jesus set me free from hopelessness and despair.. He is more than willing to do the same for you too; willing to take that heavy burden off your shoulders. Grab yourself a cup of tea, get in your most comfy pyjamas and let’s have some fun! “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavily burdened [by religious rituals that provide no peace], and I will give you rest [refreshing your souls with salvation] - Matt 11:28 Let’s connect! Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts ***For 1-on-1 coaching session, book an appointment at https://www.calendly.com/oladavies360

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Episodes

Monday Jun 13, 2022

21\\ Has Your Marriage Become Your Idol?

Monday Jun 13, 2022

Hey Sis!
Glad you are here. So this episode is where we ask some in-depth questions about marriage and the place we've given it in our lives.
-Is it possible to worship marriage over God?
- How does one know if marriage has become an idol?
- Shouldn't marriage be the most important thing in our lives, isn't family everything? Or should it?
- We all have a throne, who is sitting on yours and what does that have to do with your marriage?
- How you can find what is robbing you of peace and get your peace back.
Have an insightful time listening.
Love,
Ola.

Let’s connect!
Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Monday Jun 06, 2022

20\\ What The Bible Says About Abusive Marriages

Monday Jun 06, 2022

Hi Sis!
This episode is a dive into scriptures to see how God views abusive marriages.
Does he expect us to stay till our abusive spouse changes? Does staying in an abusive marriage make us holy or does it honor God? What is God's take on this? Is he concerned at all for the well-being of the abused spouse?
This episode helps answer these questions. Hope you find insights as you listen.

Blessings,
Ola
Book mentioned in today's episode: Life-saving Divorce by Gretchen Baskerville
Free-online resource: https://lifesavingdivorce.com/abuse-in-bible/
Let’s connect!
Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Monday May 30, 2022

19\\ How Separation and Divorce Affects Friendships

Monday May 30, 2022

Hey Sis!
So this is the episode about friends. When you decided to take the big leap of leaving your abusive marriage, you didn't exactly think of how this might change any other relationships you have, especially friendships.
In this episode, I talk about how the news of your separation/divorce can automatically create friend categories you didn't know existed. I expound on three different categories of friends and how I manage them in a way that best supports me and not contribute to the pain that already comes with separation/divorce.

Happy listening!
Ola

Let’s connect!
Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Monday May 23, 2022

18\\ How Staying In An Abusive Marriage Can Damage Your Children

Monday May 23, 2022

Hey Sis,
This episode addresses what we are often not told about children in abusive homes. We've been told how it's best for children to grow up in a two-parent household and this often makes abused women think they should stay in their marriages for the sake of the children. But could raising children in a home where their mother is being abused have damaging consequences?
If yes, how?

I pray this episode blesses you.
Ola

Let’s connect!
Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Monday May 16, 2022

17\\ How I Decided Divorce Was Right For Me (Part 2)

Monday May 16, 2022

Hi Sis!Today's episode is the concluding part of last week's. I give a narration of how I knew divorce was it for me. I was either going to leave or die in the marriage.
Happy listening.
Ola.

Let's connect!
Facebook group: @When marriage hurtsInstagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Monday May 09, 2022

16\\ How I Decided Divorce Was Right For Me

Monday May 09, 2022

Hi Sis!
In today's episode, I share more of my story, specifically how I came to the conclusion that divorce was the right step for me. I give a brief background of the events that led up to that point of no return.
Happy listening!
Ola

Let's connect!
Facebook group: @whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Monday May 02, 2022

15\\ Is God Really Unquestionable? - How Questioning God Strengthens Your Faith (Part 2)

Monday May 02, 2022

Hey Sis,
In this episode which is the concluding part of last week's episode, we answer the questions - Is God Really Unquestionable? Is it a sin to question God? Are there any benefits to it or is it a "no-no"?
Can questioning God help us heal?

Be blessed as you listen.
Ola

Let’s connect!
Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Monday Apr 25, 2022

14\\ Is God Really Unquestionable? - How Questioning God Strengthens Your Faith (Part 1)

Monday Apr 25, 2022

Hey Sis,
In this episode which is the first in a series of episodes, we answer the questions - Is God Really Unquestionable? Is it a sin to question God? Are there any benefits to it or is it a "no-no"?
Can questioning God help us heal?

Be blessed as you listen.
Ola

Let’s connect!
Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Monday Apr 18, 2022

13\\ Is Emotional Abuse Really That Bad?

Monday Apr 18, 2022

Hi Sis,
Thanks for being here for another insightful episode. On this episode, we look at the question of whether emotional abuse is really as bad as it sounds or even worse from a biblical perspective.
Is emotional abuse really damaging? What kind of a woman is likely to be emotionally abused in marriage and also why emotional abuse is the devil's weapon of choice in destroying a human being.
Be blessed as you listen.
Ola

Let’s connect!
Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts

Monday Apr 11, 2022

12\\ Does Having Good In-laws Guarantee a Good Marriage?

Monday Apr 11, 2022

Hey Sis,
In this episode we take a critical look at a seemingly harmless myth that could set us up for an abusive relationship in our marriages and why the man we marry may be more important than the in-laws.
Be blessed as you listen.
Ola

Let’s connect!
Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whenmarriagehurts
Instagram: @whenmarriagehurts